Are
you wondering how to get started again after being out of the dating
scene for so long? Are you wondering if you are still "in the game" -
if anyone is going to find you attractive and if you have what it takes
to attract someone?
If
you answered yes to any of these questions, you have a lot in common
with most adults who find themselves single after years in a
relationship.
I
believe anyone can rejoin the world of flirting and dating at any point
in their lives. And to increase your confidence in the dating world,
there are a handful of skills you may want to hone before going out to
a party or social gathering. Flirting is an important skill to master,
but an easy one to learn.
Flirting
is a very broad term. What comes to mind when you hear the word? The
first thing that comes to me is a feeling of self-confidence: a
self-assured man or woman with a warm, bright smile along with body
language that says, "It's safe to approach me" or "I'm interesting in
approaching you." The smile and body language
communicate that the interaction will be fun, playful and engaging. Who
wouldn't respond to an invitation like that?
Flirting is:
© eye contact that connects
© an invitation to share yourself with someone else
© feeling vulnerable but approaching someone anyway
© initiating a conversation and staying present to it
© having the courage to be yourself
© without expectation (or an end goal)
© playful, direct and honest (I can't emphasize this enough!)
© sexy and sensuous but not sexual (unless you choose it to be)
Most of all flirting is a conscious choice to express interest in another.
Here
is one tip to get you started on your foray into flirting and dating.
Get paper and pen and write down all the amazing and unique things
about you (go ahead, do it now). What are the top 3 things on that list
that other people love about you? In a brief
interaction with a prospective date, you can share those 3 things
easily as long as you know what they are. It's a matter of knowing your
gifts and sharing them confidently.
For
example, one thing people love about me is that I make people feel
comfortable and at ease. Since I've gotten that feedback again and
again, I am sure to emphasize it when I meet someone. I do that by
using direct eye contact and a gentle, warm touch on the person's arm
when talking or listening to them. These simple gestures put people at
ease and let them know I am interested in them.
Learning
to flirt again will help get you back into the dating scene with
confidence and ease. Make this summer your time to flirt, date and have
fun!
An
expert in flirting, Robyn Vogel utilizes her gifts to help women build
confidence and develop a fun and flirtatious attitude. Find her at www.FlirtingTipsForWomen.com.
