JOURNEY OF DIVORCE – Roadmap
- Who am I, now that I am not a "wife" or "husband"?
- What has my life been about?
- What can I learn?
- What do I want?
- What do I want to teach and model for my children?
- What can I create for myself, and for my life, through this experience
And so the Journey of Divorce begins with a decision to walk the road of divorce with intention. A decision to explore who I want to be in this experience, and who I want to become, using the journey of divorce as my learning ground. Once that decision is made, we are ready to travel the road with purpose.
There is the Grieving Journey, in which we learn to feel and let go of the losses of the marriage. Next is the Learning Journey, looking honestly and fearlessly at the lessons in this experience. How did I co-create the dynamic in my marriage? What do I do with all this anger? How can I build a new relationship with my ex so that we can co-parent our children in harmony? What can I learn about myself that can expand and deepen who I am?
Once we have begun to uncover the lessons of the experience and take responsibility for our part in it, we are ready for the Healing Journey, finding peace and compassion by forgiving ourselves and our ex, and acknowledging the gifts of the marriage.
The final leg of the Journey is Coming Home -- to yourself. You learn to speak your voice authentically, in partnership with others. You rediscover yourself, embracing your faults and mistakes and owning your gifts and your wisdom. Having traveled a path rich with insights, pain and joy, and unexpected gifts, you arrive home again, home to the loving, compassionate, joyous human being that you were always meant to be.
